In this role of being a fragment of the Tao, we have a purpose that is in our very being - to have different life experiences than what the Tao has already experienced. The Tao desires diversity so having a palette of diversity in races, cultures, economic strata, education, beliefs, values, sexual orientation, rules, etc. has merit for the Tao. These types of diverse groups will also create opportunities to create unity, support, sameness, AND conflict - all of which the Tao desires because it provides a framework for different types of life experiences and choices.
If a person can plan or comprehend an experience, then they must have, by the very nature of understanding the experience, an experience of that experience. In other words, if you can imagine it, then you already have experienced part of it. Therefore, if the purpose of the Tao is to discover or broaden your experiences, then planning your experiences is self defeating. The Tao did not plan experiences, but only a mechanism or a type of engine to generate a grand diversity of experiences through uncontrolled interactions.
So, the bottom line is, there is going to be conflict and drama. There will be times when you want to embrace your sameness and unity with the group, and other times when you want to honor your differences and uniqueness. In addition, you will have times when you are pulled towards being on the outside, and other times when you be drawn to coming back to the herd. This mechanism provides a way for the Tao to have diverse experiences, diverse problems, as well as diverse solutions - all through YOU. After all, you are a part of the Tao and as such, are providing something the Tao may not have ever experienced before.